When we talk about Transactional Analysis (TA) in our classes, we focus primarily on the ego states of the Parent and the Adult. The Parent is split between the Nurturing Parent and the Critical Parent. The Nurturing Parent is the instinct to empathize without indulgence and offer solutions, to help someone feel heard and validate their experience. The Critical is the instinctive habit of providing unsolicited advice out of the present. Statements such as, “You should do this…You should have done that…What were you thinking?”
When we are engaging in conversation we rotate between ego states, typically triggered by the nature of our relationship with the other and the content of the conversation. When it comes to your constituents, your prospects, or your family, what is your predominant ego state? Read my blog on a quick synopsis of TA and let me know where you see yourself and whether that serves you well.