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Sandler Trainers: Justin Stephens & Jim Stephens http://www.crossroads.sandler.com/
Behind The Business: Heath Van Patten http://www.nexthometreasurevalley.com
Entrepreneur Radio: Jonathan Cardella https://www.getventive.com/
No Guts No Gain
Justin and Jim Stephens share information about the special event Wednesday this week on July 12th – No Guts No Gain.
In the event, No Guts No Gain we will be talking about some of the manipulative games people play in order to gain an advantage over others. They’re manipulative if someone is trying to get you to do something you may not want to do. Drama exists to avoid accountability. Karpman’s triangle - a victim – a rescuer – a persecutor are the three pieces of the Drama Triangle. This occurs in life because we aren’t always managing the tone and the content of what we say. Eric Byrne, the founder of Transactional Analysis is the OK Corral – he talks about how we feel in relationship to other people – I’m ok, you’re ok; I’m not ok, you’re not ok; I’m ok, you’re not ok; If you put someone on a pedestal, your happiness relies on them being happy and content. It’s not good for anyone. We all tend to fight for our position – the reason many people watch the news is that when you see how terrible other people’s lives are (flooding, fire, disasters, shooting, etc.) it makes us feel better about our own lives.
What needs to change is how I see myself – what role do I see myself in? Is my role defining how I see myself and how I value myself?
Understanding your rights – you have a right to see yourself as equal to anyone else – you also have a responsibility to see yourself as equal to everyone else.
In business, we are programmed to believe “the customer is always right” but a lot of times the customer is not sure what they want, or doesn’t understand some of the details that effect what is right for them in their situation.
Two things can drive you to be your own worst enemy –one is need for approval - if you base your value on what other people think of you, you will always be trying to please others to prove your value. The second is Achievement – if you define your value by your achievement, you are going to always be trying to achieve more to prove that you have worth. Recognizing your intrinsic worth, outside of anything that you “do” is the essence of self confidence.
I am self confident when I separate who I am in my identity from my role.
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